This question was asked of me recently when I was recounting my journey from a shy, quiet, and socially awkward boy to an outgoing, fun-loving, and confident man. It occurred to me that while I had figured out how to nurture my own self-confidence, others are struggling with theirs every day. I don't like this at all.Everyone deserves to be self-confident and happy with themselves. You live with your perception of yourself 24/7 and it pervades every aspect of your life. If you are unhappy with yourself then it will manifest across your life - jobs that you hate, relationships that are no good for you, and friends that aren't very good friends.
Have a vision.If you don't know where you're going, any road will get you there. You should have a clear vision of your goal. What does self-confidence mean to you? Who do you want to become? When will you know that you are self-confident? Write down all qualities that you need to develop in yourself to become a truly confident person.It's also a great idea to imagine your ideal lifestyle in every detail - where you live, with whom, what you do on a daily basis etc. Having a clear vision of your future life will make you more self-confident and more focused on your goals.
Affirmations are about both of these - reminding yourself of your existing positive traits but also encouraging personal growth towards developing new behaviours.Tips for writing your own affirmations.Target all aspects of yourself - physical, personality, relationships, leadership etc.They must be uplifting - you must finish reading them with a big smile on your face.Be ultra-positive, even if you don't 100% believe it at the time.No negative words, even if they are double negatives (e.g. "I am beautiful" is much better than "I am not ugly"),Repeat them to yourself in the mirror - tell yourself how great you are.Read them to yourself every single day (preferably twice a day)
All of these tips should prove very useful on your path toward self-confidence. However, remember that self-confidence isn't only about not worrying what other people think or having a vision - it's mainly about constantly expanding your comfort zone and improving yourself. Keep that in mind while building your self-confidence.Building a better self-confidence is an ever ongoing task. Even if you have a low self-confidence today there are ways you can improve it. One way to improve your self-confidence is to start with the inside of you. Here you are going to learn a few self-confidence tips to make this possible.
Got the picture? Interestingly I read through those affirmations of mine and I realise two things - firstly; they are all second nature to me now which is great, but the biggest thing I notice is how my life has taken some new directions based on them.For example, as I began to develop my self-confidence and believe my own affirmations I met Sophie, a fantastic and wonderful woman who I fell in love with. I have no doubt that our relationship would not have been so successful had I not turned my self esteem around with affirmations.
Here are 5 self-confidence tips for your inner world.Focus on what you want to do. Slow down and focus on things that are of real importance to you. We have a tendency to think we are important if we are multi-tasking today. We rush from one task to the next. It is common sense that this makes us do things half-heartedly. The more things you are up to the less time you have for each one of them. This might make you good at producing quantity, but it is at the expense of quality. This is a self-confidence killer, since you know you are not doing the tasks as good as you can do. When you have less things to do and you have the time to do them properly your self-confidence will increase.
Know that true beauty comes from the inside. You might say this is a cliche but in that case it is a true cliche. When you are pleased with yourself on the inside it will show on the outside. You can have all the qualities for outer beauty, but if you dont feel beautiful on the inside it will affect your outer look negatively. Most people are spending a fortune and a lot of time (=life) to fix their outer look, when what really makes one successful is the inner look. When your inside is beautiful your outer presence will shine.
Know Yourself.Step one - take the time to get to know yourself inside out, to start the process of learning how to build self confidence. A lack of self confidence is often caused by taking the opinions of others to heart, and allowing your self-worth to be determined by your situation. Develop a method that will allow you to tune out distractions and focus on your inner dialogue. One way to do this is by writing down your thoughts, and in the process deciding what is most important to you. You will realize, as you are doing this, that learning how to build self confidence is often a matter of self-discovery rather than one of changing yourself. Many people also find that doing research on how the body and mind works, and thereby understanding the science and complexities of the mind, very helpful. Thereby you gain a much deeper awareness of who you truly are. You should also find it much easier to complete the nest step in building self confidence.
Exercise Self Control.Step two - develop the ability to control your thoughts and inner dialogue, to continue the very satisfying process of learning how to build self confidence. Developing self control is essential, and it can only be developed through deliberate mental training - similar to become more physically fit by physical training and exercise. People often fail to develop self control because they mistakenly regard it as limiting their freedom. The truth is exactly the opposite. By exercising more control over your actions and thoughts, you can draw on this to help you achieve more of what you want in your life.
Say I love you. These three words are universal and very powerful. When you feel love for someone or something you feel good, and when you express the words with emotions to anybody your self confidence will multiply. You can say I love you to another human, but you can also say it to life or to a flower, a tree or an animal. We all have our own beloved ones. When you express your love you make someone happy, and make their self-confidence grow and when you get another humans self-confidence to grow your own self-confidence will grow. Dont forget the most important person to express your love to, yourself. Because if you dont have love for yourself you will certainly not have any love to give to others.
Have a vision.If you don't know where you're going, any road will get you there. You should have a clear vision of your goal. What does self-confidence mean to you? Who do you want to become? When will you know that you are self-confident? Write down all qualities that you need to develop in yourself to become a truly confident person.It's also a great idea to imagine your ideal lifestyle in every detail - where you live, with whom, what you do on a daily basis etc. Having a clear vision of your future life will make you more self-confident and more focused on your goals.
Affirmations are about both of these - reminding yourself of your existing positive traits but also encouraging personal growth towards developing new behaviours.Tips for writing your own affirmations.Target all aspects of yourself - physical, personality, relationships, leadership etc.They must be uplifting - you must finish reading them with a big smile on your face.Be ultra-positive, even if you don't 100% believe it at the time.No negative words, even if they are double negatives (e.g. "I am beautiful" is much better than "I am not ugly"),Repeat them to yourself in the mirror - tell yourself how great you are.Read them to yourself every single day (preferably twice a day)
All of these tips should prove very useful on your path toward self-confidence. However, remember that self-confidence isn't only about not worrying what other people think or having a vision - it's mainly about constantly expanding your comfort zone and improving yourself. Keep that in mind while building your self-confidence.Building a better self-confidence is an ever ongoing task. Even if you have a low self-confidence today there are ways you can improve it. One way to improve your self-confidence is to start with the inside of you. Here you are going to learn a few self-confidence tips to make this possible.
Got the picture? Interestingly I read through those affirmations of mine and I realise two things - firstly; they are all second nature to me now which is great, but the biggest thing I notice is how my life has taken some new directions based on them.For example, as I began to develop my self-confidence and believe my own affirmations I met Sophie, a fantastic and wonderful woman who I fell in love with. I have no doubt that our relationship would not have been so successful had I not turned my self esteem around with affirmations.
Here are 5 self-confidence tips for your inner world.Focus on what you want to do. Slow down and focus on things that are of real importance to you. We have a tendency to think we are important if we are multi-tasking today. We rush from one task to the next. It is common sense that this makes us do things half-heartedly. The more things you are up to the less time you have for each one of them. This might make you good at producing quantity, but it is at the expense of quality. This is a self-confidence killer, since you know you are not doing the tasks as good as you can do. When you have less things to do and you have the time to do them properly your self-confidence will increase.
Know that true beauty comes from the inside. You might say this is a cliche but in that case it is a true cliche. When you are pleased with yourself on the inside it will show on the outside. You can have all the qualities for outer beauty, but if you dont feel beautiful on the inside it will affect your outer look negatively. Most people are spending a fortune and a lot of time (=life) to fix their outer look, when what really makes one successful is the inner look. When your inside is beautiful your outer presence will shine.
Know Yourself.Step one - take the time to get to know yourself inside out, to start the process of learning how to build self confidence. A lack of self confidence is often caused by taking the opinions of others to heart, and allowing your self-worth to be determined by your situation. Develop a method that will allow you to tune out distractions and focus on your inner dialogue. One way to do this is by writing down your thoughts, and in the process deciding what is most important to you. You will realize, as you are doing this, that learning how to build self confidence is often a matter of self-discovery rather than one of changing yourself. Many people also find that doing research on how the body and mind works, and thereby understanding the science and complexities of the mind, very helpful. Thereby you gain a much deeper awareness of who you truly are. You should also find it much easier to complete the nest step in building self confidence.
Exercise Self Control.Step two - develop the ability to control your thoughts and inner dialogue, to continue the very satisfying process of learning how to build self confidence. Developing self control is essential, and it can only be developed through deliberate mental training - similar to become more physically fit by physical training and exercise. People often fail to develop self control because they mistakenly regard it as limiting their freedom. The truth is exactly the opposite. By exercising more control over your actions and thoughts, you can draw on this to help you achieve more of what you want in your life.
Say I love you. These three words are universal and very powerful. When you feel love for someone or something you feel good, and when you express the words with emotions to anybody your self confidence will multiply. You can say I love you to another human, but you can also say it to life or to a flower, a tree or an animal. We all have our own beloved ones. When you express your love you make someone happy, and make their self-confidence grow and when you get another humans self-confidence to grow your own self-confidence will grow. Dont forget the most important person to express your love to, yourself. Because if you dont have love for yourself you will certainly not have any love to give to others.
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