Self Esteem And Self Confidence

By Frank D. Sallee


As a child, I was quiet and shy and I thought Self-Confidence was something you either had or didn't have - like being tall or having red hair. Actually, I thought it was something that the "lucky" people had. Fortunately for me, I learned that Self-Confidence is a quality that can be developed. In fact, I find Self-Confidence to be a wonderful byproduct of understanding and applying the Law of Attraction. With the Law of Attraction, you can enjoy the Self-Confidence that comes from knowing who you really are, from knowing how life works, from knowing how to make your dreams come true. With the Law of Attraction, the Self-Confidence is available to everyone.

Brian Tracy, in his remarkable self confidence program, The Science of Self-Confidence, outlines the importance of self confidence in every area of your life. The ability to achieve your goals relies heavily upon your belief in yourself. Whether you belief you can or whether you believe you can't, either way you will be right. What you believe and what you feel certain about is what you act upon - or what you fail to act upon.

We all need this sense of certainty in the things we attempt to do. Certainty makes us feel confident in our ability to deal with a situation. Without certainty we tend to hesitate as we are unfamiliar with what might happen. As human beings we ALL need a sense of certainty. If you lack that sense of certainty you will remain immobilized by your own lack of confidence.

I must admit that I was one of those people who firmly believed that one gets born with confidence. I mean, have you ever seen someone who is really self confident and truly self assured. They just seem so in control and so alive; as if nothing can stop them. Is this a 'given' or is it something you learn? The truth is that either way, we all want it and you probably can't ever have enough of it. Only after investing in a good self confidence program did my perception of self confidence start to change - and thankfully so.Self confidence is nothing but a state of mind. It's an attitude and something that can be learned. Think about it - when you actually feel self confident it's only a feeling isn't it? It does not rely on anything outside yourself, but relies solely on the process of though and on how you organize ideas and response in your mind.

But you can't simply depend on the praise lavished by others. You have to work hard to earn that praise, and you can do this only if you are self-confident. The same applies to those who are not successful. They, too, can earn praise if they work hard and win people's respect.

Such people should look at children. Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be it learning how to cycle or how to swim.In fact, no child comes into the world knowing all the skills. But it does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills. Then, why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?Another myth is that only self-confident people can afford to take risks. This again is not true. In fact, self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities. They know what they can do, and what they can't do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures.

Your ability to pursue your goals, to just do it and to succeed is directly related to your level of confidence in yourself and your own ability to be effective. Regardless of what you want to be, do or have in your life - you will need self confidence. Without that inner certainty in yourself, you simply won't have the necessary backup from within to be truly effective. Confident people radiate their certainty and they are attractive in more than one way. Self confidence is the key to turning yourself ON. Only when you learn to trust and believe in yourself can you really get the most out of yourself and activate your ability to create and direct your own life.




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