The Smart Way To Win Your Ex Back

By Eva Hacking

Are you wondering how to get my ex back but all you can feel is pain and heart break? Thankfully almost all relationships can be saved once you change your approach.Regardless of the reason for your break up, most break ups can be reversed if you can contain the pain you are feeling right now. Almost everyone makes the same mistakes when trying to win their ex back, the result? An ex who no longer wants anything to do with you, ignores your calls and is pushed out of your life forever.

Before I start, there are also some other things that you should do like; improving your self-esteem and image by working out and trying to feel better about yourself, you can also bring up to your ex past events that you shared and had fun.Another thing that you should do is to put your focus on yourself. I know that it sounds counterproductive to your cause, but the truth of the matter is that people like it when their partners are confident in themselves. Go out and start putting down an exercising plan. Improve your diet to healthy foods and avoid associating yourself with people who are not like-minded.

You can do it, so stop saying words like "I can't do it". Change your attitude for the better before you consider even meeting up with your ex.Enhance your self-image. How do you see yourself when you look at yourself in the mirror? Is your hygiene up to scratch? Is your breath fresh? Are your nails cared for properly? Is your face washed and cleaned? How do your clothes look? Are they neat and presentable? If you do not feel so confident after asking yourself these questions then you need a makeover.

It does not have to be an expensive one. You can get good discounts on clothing even at your local shops. I stress on this self-image point because it has not only to do with how people see you, but it also has to do with how you see yourself. Do you see yourself as a winner or a loser? Do you see yourself as half empty or half full? Do you think that your relationship with your ex is something that can be salvaged or not? If you think it can, then it will. It all depends on what you think is possible. Start taking proper care of yourself from today and I assure you that you will be happy you did.

After you do all the above, then you can proceed to start reminding your ex of past events that you both enjoyed. For instance, think of the venue where you had your first kiss and say something like: "Hey, a couple of my friends and I are going to have a roast barbecue at the old park." This will make them start reminiscing of the good times. If you do it well, they will cave in eventually and say, "Oh yeah, those were some good times I remember." They may even add "I miss that." This is the attitude you are looking for. Once they start saying things like that, you are on your way on getting your ex back.

I know that some of the things I have said may sound very easy in theory but may turn out to be complex practically. That is why I am here to help you out. Feel free to click the link below and join our program where we hold your hand and give you practical strategies from experiences of those who have done it and succeeded. Sounds fair? Then see you on the other side.I have researched tons and tons of content about how to get an ex-partner back after a serious breakup, and believe me, most of these so-called "tips" are all hokum. These "experts" believe that their advice applies to ALL relationships - that if you do this or not do that, you will be guaranteed a second chance with your girl. I, however, know that the complexity of all relationships does not allow for that - there is no definite set of rules that will get you out of your predicament.

Start working out. When you work out, endorphins are released inside your body, so, you will feel a lot better. It will make you look better too, so you'll get a boost in your confidence. Remember: confidence is one of the most attractive traits you can have (every dating advice I've read - good or bad - included this clich - the power of confidence). But, confidence comes with success while you've just been dumped. It's not going to be easy, but, don't worry too much. I'm going to give you all the tools you need to get success, so confidence will happen automatically.

This is just the most childish "advice" I've heard about relationships. Of course, there are instances where it is inappropriate and forbidden to contact an ex after a breakup, but to NEVER contact them? As in, an eternal ban of communication from your ex-partner? This can't be farther from the truth. What if your ex tries to contact your first? What if it's been over a month since the break up? What if you are both working at the same place and you need to be able to talk to each other? Does this advice still hold?Maybe the more appropriate tip would be "If possible, limit your communication with your ex, and sensibly ask your ex to do the same." And this situation shouldn't go on for more than a month. Trust me, relationship heartaches normally cease three weeks after a breakup. So, I think it's safe to talk to your ex freely and openly after three weeks. But never before that.

Of course you should be sad! You are not a robot; it's okay to be depressed because of a breakup. We are talking about real emotions here, real memories wasted because of disagreements and irreconcilable differences. You should grieve about the breakup before you can finally truly get over it.What is unacceptable, however, is making it obvious to your ex how sad you are. If you're on the process of figuring out how to get your ex back, then you shouldn't be showing weakness and desperation in front of your ex. You can grieve, but grieve silently. Be depressed discreetly. Open up to a few trusted friends about the situation, but not to everyone.Did you know that almost all breakups involve a third party of some sort? It can be a very real possibility that your ex broke up with you because she already found someone else; she just didn't want the hassle of being called a "whore" or a "slut" by being together with two men at the same time, so she broke up with you. Not acting immediately to retrieve your lost relationship will only reduce your chances to zero. So, really, don't believe this hoopla about "being patient" or "giving it time". You have to act as soon as you've broken up.

That is not to say that you won't give your ex some space. You should, but only for a few days. When the dust has finally settled, try talking to her and telling her of your plan to get the relationship back. This will take her off guard and will stunt the possibility of her getting together with another guy.This is the biggest lie in the book in my opinion. We have mentioned already in the article that the main reason for breakups is a third party - if you let your ex-girlfriend see you seemingly happy on dates with someone else, then she will be convinced all the more that the breakup was for the better. She will then pursue her new relationship seeing that you've already moved on. So, in reality, this plan will backfire from the get go. Don't make her jealous - instead, show how committed and loyal you are to the relationship by not seeing other people

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