Gaining Self Confidence To Achieve Success In Anything

By Chelsea Grace

Where does self confidence come from? How will we get it? Should I have it? The answer to all of these questions will be answered with one word you! Self confidence starts with you, your perception of yourself, and what other people think about your actions or behavior.

For many of us, an absence of self confidence only has an effect on our high ambitions. You might have always wanted to get up on stage, or to be a professional frontman or actor for instance. Perhaps your life dream is to travel around the world, visit different states or cities, but you do not have the self confidence to do it. For others, the problem of self confidence is much more close to home - at work, business meetings, public talking events or presentations.

Self confidence issues affect most of us at one point, and we will be able to sometimes find methods of getting around the problem. Avoidance is one tactic we often use - if we can get out of a menacing situation we will make up excuses not to take part. Nonetheless there are times when we will not get out of it, or we really don't want to. If a lack of self confidence is excluding you from doing trying something new, or from succeeding in your working life, it is time to do something about it.

The starting point in improving your self confidence is understanding what causes the problem. Low self worth, not believing in yourself or your ability, feeling inadequate compared to your associates or friends or perhaps a type of shock from your childhood are all contributing factors. By examining the reasons for your low self confidence, you're halfway there!

Taking positive action to beat your fears is the following step to help increase your self confidence. A simple way to do this is by taking on little challenges. You have allowed your brain to associate certain events or actions with fear, so you've already pre-empted the result of these situations. By taking a tiny step in the direction of conquering this, you will find that the result's most likely not as unpleasant as you believe actually you will probably be confounded about how good you're feeling and your self confidence will instantly increase.

When you have completed your first small challenge, congratulate yourself on achieving your aim. A tiny reward can often help. You're already on the right trail to improving your self confidence, so you're ready to take it to a new level. This needn't be a big task; you do not need to undo all the sterling work. Building up your self confidence requires time, and while you might like to jump ahead, it can be a brilliant idea to take it slowly at first. Gradually increase the risks you are taking to get your self confidence to where you want to be. Risk taking does not, of course, mean jumping off a bridge, but the generally accepted risk of something happening as a result of your actions is usually the most important obstruction with self confidence.

Self confidence issues are common for most people, and there are excellent resources to be taught how to cope with these issues, but if you have serious difficulty facing certain scenarios you should seek pro help.

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