The Basics Of Pickup Artist Secrets

By J. Ryu

There exists in the realm of Pickup Artists many schools of thoughts. Naturally with these schools of thoughts there exists different gurus, professionals, pickup artists, and disciples. There are systems that concentrate on just getting as much sex as you can, systems that instruct you how to pick up as many girls as possible, and those that teach you how to get and maintain real relationships. All these pickup artist techniques are variations of a basic system but at different complexities. I personally do not like the get-as-much-sex-as-you-can systems due to the fact that they are shallow, abuse the pickup artist techniques, and normally are cheap, quick fixes that skim on the art of seducing women. I prefer systems that concentrate on actual relationships and treating women like human beings rather than a talking blow up doll.

If you research pickup artist techniques, there exists a whole parallel universe complete with their own language, philosophy, code system, and ideals. Among the many pickup artist techniques and systems, I will go over the world famous and legendary Mystery's M3 Model. This is one of the first systems that was actually codified into a set structure and serves as the skeleton/guideline for many of the systems out there.


1. Open

2. Female to Male Interest

3. Male to Female Interest


1. Building Rapport

2. Building emotional and physical connections

3. Intimacy


1. Arousal

2. Last Minute Resistance

3. Sex

A1. Open.

You open the set, meaning you start contact by approaching them. This includes the dreaded cold approaches, pickup lines, and beginning a conversation. Must also include a Social Hook Point. This is the crucial moment in the beginning of a cold interaction where the set (girls, group of women, group of guys/girls) want you to stick around for a bit, because you are entertaining. This is done by hooking their curiosity with negging (playful teasing) or an intriguing discussion stimulated by the opener.

A2. Female to Male Interest

You have to get the girl interested, attracted, and/or intrigued in you first. The primary reason women are attracted to men is when men have a high implied value. Value is created by a pickup technique called DHV (Demonstrating High Value). There are lots of pickup artist tactics to demonstrating high value and they include things like: story telling, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, joking, leading the conversation, etc.

A3. Male to Female Interest

In this phase, The HB (Hot Babe) must be baited into demonstrating her own value. By this way, you're just attracted to her by her personality or charm, other than her looks. You must have her earn your interest and be interested in something besides her looks. Since you have already demonstrated your high value from A2, you are in a slight position of power and in a position to judge if she is cool enough to hang with you.

C1. Building Rapport.

In this phase, only the two of you ought to be talking and chilling. This is to establish a sense of comfort with one another. This is the time to loosen up and just chitchat with each other, discover any commonalities, and start to relate to each other.

C2. Building emotional and physical connections

Emotional connection is simply conversation taken to the next level. Here you want to include some childhood stories and memories that make you look vulnerable and sensitive that give insights into your thoughts. As soon as emotional connection has been established, you instantly want to escalate the physical connection using kino (touching). Kinoing is the very best method to develop out of the nasty "buddy zone" into the sexual zone.

C3. Intimacy

The C3 takes place at a possible sex location. The talking/cuddling/kissing turns into heavy making-out and now it's time to close the deal.

S1. Arousal.

When you get to this stage, it is beyond the scope of pickup tactics, but another topic all together: your sexual game. The important thing is to escalate from C3 to S1 smoothly, naturally, and with correct timing. If you escalate prematurely or unnaturally, the woman will get buyer's regret and you could blow everything!

S2. LMR (Last Minute Resistance)

Mystery states: "Last Minute Resistance. This is the point of no return before sex occurs. It's often a freak-out moment for the woman." "I just met you..." "Don't you think this is too fast...?" "Lets just make out..." Or just defends her important areas. The majority of women do not want to feel like a slut so they will give some type of LMR. The key here is to not be needy and desperate but rather reinforce the idea that she desires this and you are providing a service.

S3. Sex

Have fun and make sure to call/text/email her. Don't be a jerk and ruin it for the rest of us...

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